Finding The Truth

There's an unspoken question I sense at times when I tell people I'm exploring my adoption: "Why would you want to do that? Isn't it better to leave the past in the past? Why drudge up stuff from the past, especially if it's not really affecting you*?" One of the most...

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How To Stand Out: Embrace Your Otherness

Clients often ask me how they can set themselves apart and stand out when they start (or have been running) their own business. In a glut of thousands of other writers, coaches, bloggers, developers, photographers, inventors, designers, illustrators, consultants,...

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Want To Be As Smart As I Am? Here’s How…

Last year I discovered the joys of a smart home...no, not the minimalist, uncluttered, sleek living space I'd like to live in, it's a home with 'connected' gadgets. I'm a gadget freak and proud ✌🏽 It all began with my beloved Alexa, Amazon's voice-activated home...

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Goodbye 2017!

2017. What a year! It seems to have been rather momentous for many, individually and globally, in all sorts of ways. And for me too, this has been a pivotal year... I turned 40. I got divorced. I fell in love again (and came out in the process!). I began to explore...

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When Motherhood Isn’t Enough

I suspect this post will be triggering for some. I suspect this post will cause people to judge me (negatively). I suspect this post will be 'proof' to some that I'm the hard, cold, selfish person they think I am. But, never one to shy away from being direct and...

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Being Adopted: Part 1

When you start to explore something that you've been in denial about your entire life, two life-changing things can happen*: The stories and narratives you have always told yourself get blown out of the water. You realise that who you think you are, i.e. some of the...

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Who Am I?

It's a really disconcerting feeling when all that you thought you were – who you think you are – turns out to be some kind of construct you built to keep yourself safe after experiencing a trauma in childhood (or in my case babyhood). In her books about adoption*  –...

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Are you afraid of your own success?

Do you frequently self sabotage right when you’re on the cusp of success? Do you procrastinate, delay and faff even though you’re excited and passionate about what you do? Do you let yourself get easily overwhelmed by the less-than-priority tasks on your list? Or do...

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