Being Adopted: The Journey, Part 1

When you start to explore something that you've been in denial about your entire life, two life-changing things can happen*: The stories and narratives you have always told yourself get blown out of the water. You realise that who you think you are, i.e. some of the...

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The Frustrating Irony of Me First

For me – though I appreciate less so for others – it's relatively easy to think about putting myself and my needs first and to be – for want of a word with fewer negative connotations – selfish... I'm ok with my children not being my entire world. I'm ok with wanting...

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The Trigger To Change

"Fate is the hand of cards we’ve been dealt.  Choice is how we play the hand." — Marshall Goldsmith A few people have asked "Why now?" when they hear that I'm finally – after 39 years of being in utter denial – exploring my adoption. The thought of lifting the lid on...

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Who Am I?

It's a really disconcerting feeling when all that you thought you were – who you think you are – turns out to be some kind of construct you built to keep yourself safe after experiencing a trauma in childhood (or in my case babyhood). In her books about adoption*  –...

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Are you afraid of your own success?

Do you frequently self sabotage right when you’re on the cusp of success? Do you procrastinate, delay and faff even though you’re excited and passionate about what you do? Do you let yourself get easily overwhelmed by the less-than-priority tasks on your list? Or do...

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