My Very First Experience of Me First: On Luck, Choice and Belonging

When I wrote about the frustrating irony of Me First, and how it relates to me wanting to be ok with my loved ones choosing themselves first, I missed off one important Me First – my very first experience of that – which has undoubtedly shaped the me I am today: My...

The Frustrating Irony of Me First

For me – though I appreciate less so for others – it’s relatively easy to think about putting myself and my needs first and to be – for want of a word with fewer negative connotations – selfish… I’m ok with my children not being my entire world....

The Trigger To Change

“Fate is the hand of cards we’ve been dealt.  Choice is how we play the hand.” — Marshall Goldsmith A few people have asked “Why now?” when they hear that I’m finally – after 39 years of being in utter denial – exploring my adoption. The...

Who Am I?

It’s a really disconcerting feeling when all that you thought you were – who you think you are – turns out to be some kind of construct you built to keep yourself safe after experiencing a trauma in childhood (or in my case babyhood). In her books about...