Showing Up. Being Seen. Standing Out.
It’s taken me 40 years to get to a point where I finally feel more me than I’ve ever done. Funny coincidence that it all began when I stopped ignoring the fundamental aspects of what makes me me!
Professionally, I run a location independent consultancy. This is my ‘fun’ project though it also makes money too. For want of a better definition, it’s a lifestyle blog where I write about life and the themes that are important in mine (and perhaps yours too?)…
There's an unspoken question I sense at times when I tell people I'm exploring my adoption: "Why would you want to do that? Isn't it better to leave the past in the past? Why drudge up stuff from the past, especially if it's not really affecting you*?" One of the most...read more
When asked why I home educate my children, one of my primary responses is because I believe education should be designed to prepare children to be functioning, capable, adaptable and happy people in the environment that they live in and, perhaps more importantly, the...read more
One of the main events of a rather eventful 18 months was starting a new same-sex relationship. I am pretty sure that people (read: family and friends!) have questions... Have you always been gay? Why get married and have children? Why haven't you done anything...read more
Clients often ask me how they can set themselves apart and stand out when they start (or have been running) their own business. In a glut of thousands of other writers, coaches, bloggers, developers, photographers, inventors, designers, illustrators, consultants,...read more
Last year I discovered the joys of a smart home...no, not the minimalist, uncluttered, sleek living space I'd like to live in, it's a home with 'connected' gadgets. I'm a gadget freak and proud ✌🏽 It all began with my beloved Alexa, Amazon's voice-activated home...read more
2017. What a year! It seems to have been rather momentous for many, individually and globally, in all sorts of ways. And for me too, this has been a pivotal year... I turned 40. I got divorced. I fell in love again (and came out in the process!). I began to explore...read more
I suspect this post will be triggering for some. I suspect this post will cause people to judge me (negatively). I suspect this post will be 'proof' to some that I'm the hard, cold, selfish person they think I am. But, never one to shy away from being direct and...read more
My therapist said an interesting thing to me this week, after we spent most of the session talking about my need for rules on how to just 'be'*. She said: "It seems like you're moving to a place of just being more authentically and more vulnerably you". Ugh. [* It's...read more
When you start to explore something that you've been in denial about your entire life, two life-changing things can happen*: The stories and narratives you have always told yourself get blown out of the water. You realise that who you think you are, i.e. some of the...read more
It's a really disconcerting feeling when all that you thought you were – who you think you are – turns out to be some kind of construct you built to keep yourself safe after experiencing a trauma in childhood (or in my case babyhood). In her books about adoption* –...read more