Showing Up. Being Seen. Standing Out. (Reluctantly!)

It’s taken me 40 years to get to a point where I finally feel more me than I’ve ever done. Funny coincidence that it all began making sense when I stopped ignoring some fundamental aspects of what makes me me!

I’m adopted (ignored this till I was 39). I’m gay (also ignored till I was 39). I’m Asian (hard to ignore this one). I’m a single mother (conciously chose this after no longer ignoring the gay thing!). I run a location independent consultancy on working remotely (finally re-embracing this concept after years of ignoring it!).

For want of a better definition, this is a lifestyle blog. I write about life – mostly mine and maybe sometimes yours too – and the things that are important in life. You can find out what these are here (or just keep reading below!)…

How To Stand Out: Embrace Your Otherness

Clients often ask me how they can set themselves apart and stand out when they start (or have been running) their own business. In a glut of thousands of other writers, coaches, bloggers, developers, photographers, inventors, designers, illustrators, consultants,...

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Want To Be As Smart As I Am? Here’s How…

Last year I discovered the joys of a smart home...no, not the minimalist, uncluttered, sleek living space I'd like to live in, it's a home with 'connected' gadgets. I'm a gadget freak and proud ✌🏽 It all began with my beloved Alexa, Amazon's voice-activated home...

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Goodbye 2017!

2017. What a year! It seems to have been rather momentous for many, individually and globally, in all sorts of ways. And for me too, this has been a pivotal year... I turned 40. I got divorced. I fell in love again (and came out in the process!). I began to explore...

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When Motherhood Isn’t Enough

I suspect this post will be triggering for some. I suspect this post will cause people to judge me (negatively). I suspect this post will be 'proof' to some that I'm the hard, cold, selfish person they think I am. But, never one to shy away from being direct and...

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On Authenticity & Vulnerability In Business (And Life)

My therapist said an interesting thing to me this week, after we spent most of the session talking about my need for rules on how to just 'be'*. She said: "It seems like you're moving to a place of just being more authentically and more vulnerably you". Ugh. [* It's...

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Being Adopted: Part 1

When you start to explore something that you've been in denial about your entire life, two life-changing things can happen*: The stories and narratives you have always told yourself get blown out of the water. You realise that who you think you are, i.e. some of the...

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Who Am I?

It's a really disconcerting feeling when all that you thought you were – who you think you are – turns out to be some kind of construct you built to keep yourself safe after experiencing a trauma in childhood (or in my case babyhood). In her books about adoption*  –...

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Are you afraid of your own success?

Do you frequently self sabotage right when you’re on the cusp of success? Do you procrastinate, delay and faff even though you’re excited and passionate about what you do? Do you let yourself get easily overwhelmed by the less-than-priority tasks on your list? Or do...

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